After a decade in the adult film industry and performing hundreds of positions, I reveal my top four positions guaranteed to help a woman orgasm. I also share a powerful training technique using Kegel exercises to help women achieve orgasm from penetration alone, along with tips on rhythm, presence, and confidence in the bedroom.
Having spent over a decade as an adult performer and tested hundreds of positions on a wide variety of women, I have gathered valuable insights into what truly works to help a woman orgasm. Today, I will share my top four positions that reliably get a woman off, including my signature move that can bring nearly any woman to climax in under a minute. Additionally, I will reveal a powerful training technique that enables women to orgasm from penetration alone, without clitoral stimulation.
One crucial aspect often overlooked is identifying her ideal rhythm during penetration. Women vary greatly in what stimulates them to orgasm:
Even the same woman may prefer different rhythms depending on her mood, position, or amount of foreplay. Your job is to feel out her rhythm by observing her body language, both external and internal. A subtle but telling sign is when her vaginal muscles start to pulsate and grip your penis, indicating she is approaching orgasm.
If a particular rhythm isn't building pleasure, adjust speed, pressure, or position. It may take time and practice to discover her perfect rhythm, but this is essential for helping her climax from penetration alone.
This position is similar to doggy style but with her lying flat on her stomach. You penetrate at a downward angle, which allows you to grind directly into her G-spot located on the front wall of the vagina. This area is highly sensitive and easily stimulated with this angle.
Enhancement Tip: Have her cross her ankles over each other. This tightens her vaginal muscles, making her feel twice as tight and intensifying the sensation for both of you.
In this variation of missionary, lift her hips and rest her legs on your shoulders. This elevation changes the angle of penetration, allowing you to target her G-spot more effectively.
If lifting her hips is difficult, placing a thick pillow under her hips works just as well.
Enhancement Tip: Play the "just the tip" game. Instead of rushing penetration, tease her by rubbing the head of your penis on the outside of her vaginal lips. Encourage her to beg for more, gradually increasing penetration. This teasing builds sexual tension and arousal, making the experience more memorable.
This is a variation of cowgirl where instead of her bouncing up and down, you grab her hips or thighs and move her back and forth rapidly, mimicking the motion of panning for gold.
This motion repeatedly stimulates her G-spot while her clitoris rubs against your pubic area, providing dual stimulation.
Pro Tip: Use an element of surprise by starting the rapid back-and-forth motion when she least expects it. This prevents her from overthinking and helps her reach orgasm faster.
This move requires some forearm strength but can bring most women to orgasm within 1 to 3 minutes. It’s also perfect for limited spaces, such as the back seat of a car.
Both partners lie on their sides facing the same direction, with her in front of you. You penetrate from behind while reaching around to stimulate her clitoris.
This position allows for clitoral stimulation alongside penetration and is great for resting while still maintaining pleasure.
Enhancement Tip: Turn her head to look into your eyes and whisper dirty talk. This increases intimacy, passion, and dominance, enhancing the experience.
Many women struggle to orgasm from penetration due to weaker pelvic floor muscles. However, this can be improved through Kegel exercises.
Kegels involve contracting and relaxing the pelvic floor muscles, the same muscles that grip during orgasm. You can identify these muscles by trying to stop the flow of urine midstream.
Dr. Kegel found that women who struggled with vaginal orgasms often had weaker pelvic floors.
After a few weeks, she will notice a difference during sex. Once she has built this connection, she can even perform Kegels during penetration to intensify pleasure.
Knowing the best positions is valuable, but none of it works if she is not present in the moment. The biggest barrier to female orgasm is often overthinking.
Techniques like eye contact during spooning, surprise in cowgirl, and teasing in missionary help keep her focused and engaged.
The best way to keep her present is to take control of the experience with confidence. Avoid asking too many questions like "Do you like this?" or "Am I doing this right?" Instead, read her body language and lead the experience passionately.
Women are not fragile; they respond well to confident, assertive partners who can guide them through pleasure.
Mastering these four positions, understanding her rhythm, incorporating Kegel training, and maintaining presence and confidence will dramatically improve your ability to help her orgasm. Remember, communication through body language and confidence in your actions are key to creating a memorable and pleasurable experience for both of you.
If you want to learn more about amplifying arousal and keeping her out of her head, dirty talk is an incredibly effective tool, which I also recommend exploring further.
